So many times, we get in arguments with people just because they say or do something which is completely against our beliefs and we feel hurt. You may say something to him/her, get away and then feel sorry that you argued. At least I feel sorry whenever I have an argument with someone, even if my point of argument is logical or not. I feel sorry that I had to argue to get across my point. And there's one thing that I have learnt out of it. In the heat of the moment, you may say something which you wish you hadn't, but then going back to that person later and apologizing for you said can work wonders.
Words have great power, if you really mean what you say, it can turn your world around!!
Benjamin Franklin has said - "Words may show a man's wit, but actions his meaning". So let your words be put in actions!!
Hi Dhanashree...that the good point you have raised. But if you allow me, I would like to put it as a 'Power of Forgiveness". People apologize for their mistakes, but at the same time, they should forgive each other. Otherwise, although you apologize for your mistake, the other person does not forgive for it. Last week, I have read one good quote on my desk calendar i.e. "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.". How true is it? But here we always fail.
ReplyDeletehi dhanuu....gr8 msgs evry mrng...really make my day...Dhanyawaad....
ReplyDeleteThanks guys. Well, I said I will go and apologise but I didn't... As I thought more about it, I felt, what's the point in apologising to someone who will never understand the meaning of your 'sorry'. So I didn't apologise, but something else happened. I forgave the person who had hurt me, and woosh!! my feeling of guilt also vanished!! now that's something unusual..
ReplyDelete...I have a diff school of thought, if you are angry why not express the same through facial expression, walk out or even thrashing but then no word to be uttered by mouth. Trust me Dhanashree this works better than apologising for a word not said in the right place. A word can never be taken back but the rest actions can be taken back, So I fear I am not in line with your line of thought...
ReplyDeleteNice Topic and lots of opinions. I will merely quote some famous doctors for now!
ReplyDeleteIt demands an earnest plea for forgiveness, culminating in an emotional reckoning for both parties.
“An apology, no matter how sincere or effective, does not and cannot undo what has been done,” wrote author Nicholas Tavuchis in his 1991 book, Mea Culpa: A Sociology of Apology and Reconciliation. “And yet, in a mysterious way and according to its own logic, this is precisely what it manages to do.”
“Apologies are some of the most profound interchanges between people because they touch us at what can be our most vulnerable moments,” says Lazare. “The party who makes the apology can be relieved of his guilt and shame in this act of sacrifice, and the person receiving the apology enjoys the restoration of their dignity and can envision the beginnings of forgiveness.”
Conclusions
• An apology is an act of honesty
• An apology is an act of generosity
• An apology is an act of humility
• An apology is an act of commitment
• An apology is an act of courage
I agree to what Nagesh has quoted. It's true that the Act of Apology requires tremendous courage.. and when you can be that courageous to accept your mistake and feel sorry about that, you are the most powerful person on earth. When I now reconsider my statements above in the light of what I learnt at Landmark, they are nothing but my act of 'looking good'. So now instead of playing the blame game, or making stories, it's better to accept that I said something which wasn't typically me..
ReplyDeleteAnyway, Thanks Jijid for giving me a very useful tip to express my disagreement.. I'll try that next time..